3 Crucial Things Grandparents Need to Remember

God has called us to be disciple-makers, and He’s given us many strategies for carrying out our role. In their disciple-making efforts, grandparents ask good conversation-starting questions, bestow blessings, and invest through prayer. We model, teach, and encourage. As the senior members of the family we also serve as family gatherers, tradition overseers, and rememberers.…

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God has called us to be disciple-makers, and He’s given us many strategies for carrying out our role.

In their disciple-making efforts, grandparents ask good conversation-starting questions, bestow blessings, and invest through prayer. We model, teach, and encourage.

As the senior members of the family we also serve as family gatherers, tradition overseers, and rememberers.

This is one of my favorite roles – REMEMBERER!

 “Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children’s children—”

Deuteronomy 4:9

3 Things to Remember

Remember Family Stories

Remember who you are. It’s a simple phrase, one that’s been spoken by countless numbers of parents as their children walked out the door.

Like me, maybe you recall a variation on this phrase. “Remember who you are and where you came from” and “Remember who you are and who you represent” are two that pack some power.

Helping our grandchildren remember is vital and telling family stories is one way to help them.

A living bridge between a family’s past and its future, grandparents sit in a beautifully designed position to be the keepers of family stories. Intimately connected with the two generations that preceded them and the two that follow, they are blessed with a remarkable, five-generation vista.

You may question the value of sharing your family stories with your grandchildren. The fact that your family history doesn’t include any famous names or significant historical events, may leave it feeling a bit lack-luster and not worth telling. Tell it anyway!

The Value of Family Story

Consider some of these benefits of family stories.

  • Grandchildren learn who they are and from where they came.
  • Knowledge of their roots and history helps children form their views of themselves.
  • Family stories build confidence in our grandchildren.
  • Grandchildren develop a sense of belonging and family pride.
  • Our family ethics and values are passed to another generation.
  • The telling of family stories helps us teach faith in God.
  • Our family stories provide a wonderful way for us to see how God has worked in our family throughout generations and brought us to where we are today.
  • Grandchildren are linked to relatives they otherwise could not know.
  • Direction and inspiration can be found among the role models in our family tree.

Yes, there is great value in telling your family stories. Doing so not only provides emotional and psychological benefits to our grandchildren, it’s a vessel for declaring the wondrous works of God.

Remember God’s Work in Your Own Life

“He established a testimony in Jacob and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers to teach to their children, that the next generation might know them, the children yet unborn, and arise and tell them to their children, so that they should set their hope in God and not forget the works of God,”

Psalm 78:5-7a

We are instructed to tell.

So that our grandchildren will have hope and not forget the works of God, we are to tell them who He is and what we’ve seen Him do in our lives.  

In other words, through our own experience we are to testify to God’s glory and greatness.

While this can seem intimidating, it really isn’t.

God has given every grandparent a story. Share it with your grandchildren. Tell them of His provision, His faithfulness, His love. Recount the story of your conversion. Be honest with them about times when you have struggled in your faith and declare how God brought you through.

The caution here is to remember whose story you are telling. In your story telling, guard against being a glory thief. Always make God the focal point. Declare His work, His nature, His goodness.

The point of telling your story is to make much of God.

Practical Ideas for Telling Your God Story
  1. Always be sure your testimony is God-focused. It’s His story. All glory to Him.
  2. Keep your stories pointing to God’s faithfulness, who He is, and what you’ve seen Him do in your own life.
  3. Tell, don’t preach.
  4. Use every-day conversational language. Avoid churchy words.
  5. Employ various methods: have a conversation, ask questions, use creative visuals, write it down (Psalm 102:18).

Remember God

“One generation shall commend your works to another, and shall declare your mighty acts. On the glorious splendor of your majesty, and on your wondrous works, I will meditate. They shall speak of the might of your awesome deeds, and I will declare your greatness. They shall pour forth the fame of your abundant goodness and shall sing aloud of your righteousness.” 

Psalm 145:4-7

We are human. It’s part of our nature to forget.

We forget birthdays and anniversaries and appointments and where we put our keys. Our grandchildren forget their homework, to brush their teeth, to clean their room, and where the dirty laundry goes.

We forget all these things, and we forget God.

During the time of the flood, only eight people found safety in the ark. From Adam to Noah (ten generations), God was forgotten.

In Judges 2, another “forgetting” is recorded. In a single generation, from Joshua’s to the next, God – forgotten.

The Bible and history are full of examples.

Help your grandchildren remember God. Commend His works, declare His mighty acts, speak of the might of God’s awesome deeds, and declare His greatness. Pour forth the fame of His abundant goodness and sing aloud of His righteousness.

“We will not hide them from their children, but tell to the coming generation the glorious deeds of the Lord, and his might, and the wonders that he has done. He established a testimony in Jacob.”   Psalm 78:4-5a

REMEMBER, that is God’s expectation.  And He has placed grandparents in a uniquely and perfectly designed position to be the rememberers.

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  • Deborah, I loved hearing my grandmother’s stories. I wish I’d recorded them. She raised 5 children over a grocery store after her husband died suddenly. Great tips.

  • Deborah, I love this!!! Especially —> remember and sharing God’s work in your own life. I love this season of grandmothering! ???? Thanks for sharing these ideas.

    Pinned, tweeted, and will share to the IE Facebook.

    Thanks for linking up at InstaEncouragements!

  • contend4faith8

    I love this idea: “A living bridge between a family’s past and its future, grandparents sit in a beautifully designed position to be the keepers of family stories.” I’m not a grandparent but I am storing your thoughts up in my heart to help edify future grandchildren while pointing them toward the King. Thank you!

  • I’ve only been a grandmother for 2 years so I’m devouring articles like this one, Deborah. Thanks for this list of things to remember. My 2-year-old granddaughter thanked God for her yogurt yesterday before we ate breakfast and my heart just soared. ????

  • Deborah, hi and thanks! As a grandma of 7 {one in heaven} I’m really resonating. Our grandkiddos live far away, but I’m appreciating the value of texting our oldest ones and staying connected as one of their biggest cheerleaders.

    Bless you!

  • My grandchildren are one of the biggest blessings in my life. Thank you for this good encouragement, Deborah!

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Deborah Haddix

I am a child of God, wife, mom, grandma, daughter, sister, niece, and friend who loves nothing better than spending time with those I love.

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