My Top 12 Tools for Praying for My Grandchildren

The right tools are key… to any job. And when the job is one with an eternal impact, the tools are that much more significant. Praying for my grandchildren IS my spiritual work.  And for many years, I must confess, I went about this weighty work with no plan, no tools.  I did the job,…

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The right tools are key… to any job.

And when the job is one with an eternal impact, the tools are that much more significant.

Praying for my grandchildren IS my spiritual work.  And for many years, I must confess, I went about this weighty work with no plan, no tools.  I did the job, but not well.  My prayers were often inconsistent and vague.  I grappled with a busy schedule that many times squeezed out my prayer time.  I struggled repeatedly with the feeling that my prayers were rote and stale.

Then I discovered some tools that helped to turn things around.

My Top 12 Tools for Praying for My Grandchildren

  1. Calendar/Alarm. The first step I took in overcoming busyness and the resulting inconsistency of my prayer time was to schedule it.  I examined my daily schedule and determined the best time of day for my prayers for my grandchildren.  Then I set the alarm on my phone as a reminder until the habit was established.

As the grandmother of ten, I also use a calendar to aid with consistency.  Two or three times a year, I set aside ten consecutive weeks for the purpose of “spotlighting” one grandchild each week.  The rotation is recorded on my calendar.

  1. Accountability. Another tool for helping with consistency.  Three of my favorite ways to set up an accountability system are: (1) TELL your grandchildren that you are praying for them, (2) SHARE your commitment to praying for your grandchildren with another adult [and give them permission to hold you accountable], and (3) GATHER a group of friends together and form a “grandparent” prayer group.

Nothing UPS the likelihood of follow-through on your commitment like making it public.

  1. Texts.  One of the best ways to know what to pray for our grandchildren is to ASK them.  A quick text, “How may I pray for you today?” provides much insight into individual prayer needs.
  1. Parents.  For the very young grandchild or the grandchild without access to a phone, we can still ASK for prayer needs by texting the child’s parent(s).
  1. Pad and Pencil. Another tool for equipping ourselves to pray specifically for our grandchildren is LISTENING.  When you talk to your grandchildren on the phone, via social media, or in person, be present to them.  Listen intently.  Then grab your pad and pencil and make note of things you heard; things you can pray for.
  1. Prayer Resource Sheets. One of my all-time favorite tools for praying specifically.  So often when I enter my prayer time, I find that my mind is either totally, completely, utterly blank or so jammed, packed full that I just am not able to think.  Resource sheets are a handy guide to SPECIFICS – and most are available complete with Scripture references.  Here are a few to get you started:
  1. Scripture.  You simply cannot go wrong or wonder what to pray if you pray Scripture.  If you have never prayed Scripture for your grandchildren, here are a few suggestions for getting started:
  • Number 6:22-27
  • Ephesians 1:15-23
  • Ephesians 3:14-21
  • Philippians 1:9-11
  • Colossians 1:9-12
  • Psalm 91
  • Psalm 139
  • The Book of Proverbs
  1. Weekly Journal. A new-to-me tool this year.  Once I text one of my grandchildren or their parent to ask for prayer requests, I record the requests in a journal.  This has helped me not to forget any of their requests as I pray throughout the week.  It also helps me remember specific requests for prayers after the child’s “spotlight” week is over and provides a place to record answers and blessings.
  1. Praying in Color. Another of my favorite tools for praying for my grandchildren.  I love praying this way for each child a couple of times a year.  Click here for a little “how to” if you are not familiar with Praying in Color.

Once you’ve finished your “prayer,” try mailing it to your grandchild along with a little note.  The “prayer” is sure to be a prized treasure.

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  1. Snail Mail Notes. Light up your grandchild’s face (no matter their age) by mailing little notes to them that tell of your prayers.  They will be encouraged.  So will you!
  1. Legacy Journal. A prayer journal contributed to by all members of the family – no matter their age.  A Legacy journal is a mighty tool for modeling prayer and encouraging “prayer” dialogue.
  1. Praying with Purpose 30 – Day Prayer Challenge for Grandparents. A 30 day focus on praying for grandchildren.  The FREE booklet contains several ideas and suggestions for engaging in a period of intentional and specific prayer.  A Facebook group is also available as an additional source of support and encouragement during the current Challenge (August 13th – September 11th).  While an organized group is currently observing the Challenge together, the Challenge can be completed by anyone at any time.

If you are just beginning to gather your prayer tools or are looking to add to your toolbox, you might consider Praying with Purpose: Taking Your Prayer Life from Vague to Victorious  (available at Amazon – $14.99).  The book is full of simple ideas for any grandparent who desires to develop a focused and creative prayer life.  It is full of tools and prayer resource sheets.

There you have my current Top 12 13 Praying for My Grandchildren Tools.  Do you have a favorite tool to share?  I’d love to hear.

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  • Going to start sending snail mail to my teenage grandchildren to ask what to pray for them. And start a notebook of prayers. Thank you Deborah. I have been praying for them this year but 2017 will be much better on my praying for grandchildren.

  • Wow! This is awesome! If I had gotten a prayer note from any of my grandparents before they passed away, it would indeed be a treasured possession. How encouraging to read the words of someone being so proactive in investing in the spiritual lives of those around her! I am trying to keep a legacy journal of sorts for my two young children, filled with the prayers I have for them as they are growing up. Thank you for this powerful post. ;-)

  • This is such a sweet post. It’s heartwarming and inspiring to see a person so dedicated to prayer in general, especially for her grand children!

  • Wow I love this list and how intentional you are about covering your grandkids. How blessed they are! I’ll have to keep these in mind. Thank you for sharing!

  • Deborah! You’ve got some great ideas here. I’m going to use them for my prayer for my kids AND for some younger believing students/college age young people in our MidEastern country. (God gave me a vision years ago for this because I realized they don’t have Christian parents, grandparents, or aunts.) I’m bookmarking this.

  • Wow Deborah this is an incredible list of tips! I will definitely have to share with my mother. She has eleven grandchildren! I love the approach you are taking to praying with purpose. I am currently writing a book on the power of prayer. I love these creative and insightful approaches to praying for your grand kids. i know God will bless you as you lift them up to Jesus. I hope you have a wonderful week and may God richly bless you and yours!

  • These are such great ideas! I want to start using some of these to start praying for my family and for the members of my church – something that I definitely need to be more intentional about. Thanks!

  • Janet, You know, even with all the technology our grandkids have access to, they still love to “get real mail!” I’m so excited for you AND for your grandchildren. If you would like some additional encouragement and the company of other like-minded grandparents on your journey, we have two different Facebook groups you might want to consider joining. One is Praying with Purpose – aimed specifically at encouraging and supporting grandparents and parents in their role of prayer warrior. Find it here: The other group was set up in the fall as many grandparents committed to 30 days of prayer for their grandchildren. When the 30 days was over, we decided to continue the group — again for support and encouragement. You can find this group here: Praying for you as you stand with and for your grandchildren during 2017.

  • Crystal,
    I think it’s awesome that you are keeping a legacy journal with/for your children!!! I would love to hear more about it. Thank you so much for stopping by and sharing today!

  • Kalinann,

    Thank you so much for stopping by today. Grandchildren are such a blessing and special family treasure. I count it such a privilege to be a grandmother.

  • Brittney,

    I’m so glad you found the list helpful. I was wondering if you are not a grandparent, who in your life might you be able to use this list for now? That way you can implement some of the ideas now.

  • Betsy, How wonderful that these young people have you standing in the gap for them. I don’t know them by name, but I will be praying for them, too.

  • Horace, Thank you for stopping by and for sharing this list with your mother. The more grandparents we have engaged in intentional prayer for their grandchildren, the better!!! God’s blessings as you write your book on the power of prayer.

  • Meredith, Be sure to come back and share which of the “tools” you find fit you the best! Praying for you as you become more intentional in your prayers. Your family and your church family are sure to be blessed.

  • Kathy, I hope you find a couple on the list that are helpful to you! Would love to hear what you think after you try one or two.

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Deborah Haddix

I am a child of God, wife, mom, grandma, daughter, sister, niece, and friend who loves nothing better than spending time with those I love.

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