In my last post I shared a few simple ideas on things that grandparents can teach their grandchildren. While the activities provide fun and entertainment in themselves, one other huge benefit of this time shared together is that it provides an opportunity to talk…about anything and everything. Engaging in activities together is such a marvelous way to create a safe and comfortable atmosphere for communicating.
Another fun and effective way to initiate communication with your grandchildren is to ask them questions. Using great, open-ended questions can lead to enlightening conversation and provide a glimpse into your grandchild that you might otherwise not have gotten. Choose a question and ask it first thing in the morning to get the day started or as dinner conversation. If you’ll be traveling together, ask a question or two during the ride. You might even want to choose a few questions to use each year as an interview. Perhaps every Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year, or birthday you might ask the same questions of the same child. What a great way to track the growth and maturation of your grandchild.
If you are ready to begin the journey of building a stronger, deeper relationship with your grandchild/grandchildren but aren’t quite sure what questions to ask, I’ve included a few to get you started. The important thing is to begin the dialogue!
SOME QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR GRANDCHILDREN
(About Their World Today)
What do you like most about school?
Who is your best friend? Why?
What are your favorite and least favorite: food, holiday, team, book?
When you’re having a bad day, what’s the best thing you can do to cheer yourself up?
What chores do you dislike the most around the house?
What two things would you like to learn how to do? Why?
(What If? – Questions to Get Them Thinking)
If something could fall from the sky other than rain or snow, what would you like it to be? Why?
If you won $1,000.00 in a contest, what would you do with the money? Why?
(What’s In the Future? – Asking your grands questions about their thoughts on the future should lead to some interesting answers and out-of-the-ordinary conversation)
What is the one thing you think you’ll be really good at when you are an adult?
What are two jobs you think would be really fun to do as an adult?
What are two jobs you think would be the worst to do as an adult?
What are you looking forward to most when you’re an adult? Least?
What do you think your life will be like when you get to be my age?